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Absolutely true. Shaadi kisi ke kehne se nahi dil se lage toh hi karni chahiye. Aur sahi mein koi aisi ladki jarur milegi jis ke saath aapka friend bore nahi hoga. Waise mere khyal se aapke dost ko apna introspection bhi karna chahiye. Yeh jaldi hi kisi bhi ladki se bore hone wali baat jach nahi rahi. Aur agar aisa hi nature hai toh shaadi nahi karni chahiye. Kisi aur ladki ka jeewan toh kharab nahi hoga.
Shaadi ya toh karo nahi aur karo toh fir nibhao. Wait kariye ek din unko apni mehbooba mil hi jayegi.Dear Namita, it is very unfair. Just for the sake of money you are thinking of leaving your boyfriend, your love or i would say that you never loved him. You were just attracted towards his personality. If you would have actually loved him then you would have immediately said to your boss that you are in love but when you are thinking about your boss, it means you never loved your boyfriend.
And when you don’t love him then it doesn’t matter as to whom do you marry.
By the way, boyfriend se shaadi kar ke paisa baad mein kamaya jata sakta hai par paise ke liye shaadi karogi aur baad mein uss se pyar nahi hua toh??No….no……abhi haar mat mano. Pehle try toh karo apni biwi ko manane ki. Agar tum pyar karte ho toh fir socho tarike uss tak pahunchne ke. Koi friend ho uski ya sister.
Chaachi saas ka kissa toh yahin khatam karo. Chahe kuchh bhi ho jaye iss rishte ko full stop laga do.
Ab jab galati khud maan bhi rahe ho toh yeh bhi toh socho ki galti thik karne mein time bhi lagega aur mehnat bhi. Tumari paristhiti ke hisaab se kuchh socho ki Biwi se baat kaise ho sakti hai. Shuru mein woh ladegi, gussa karegi par tum sahan karna. Usse manao aur apna pyar dikhao. Pehle achhe se try karo agar kuchh mahinon tak try karne par bhi woh na maane toh fir Namita ji ka idea maan lena.Abhi ladki dekhna aur baat hai n baad mein jab tum apni wife ke saath dikhoge usse then she will feel jealous. It’s human nature. She might become demanding n complaining.
Shaadi ke baad relation rakhna toh bilkul hi galat hai. Aur agar tumari hone wali wife ko pata chal gaya toh beta fir tum toh gaye kaam se. Woh sab ko bata degi. I mean bahut saari zindagiyan kharab ho jayengi.
Yeh baat pakki hai ki tumhe iss rishte ko yahin khatm karna chahiye. Haan sirf dosti woh bhi healthy dosti ho sakti hai par agar tum dono strong raho toh.Waise ek baat batao ki jis pyar ki tum baat kar rahe ho toh kya woh tumare liye sab kuchh chhod kar tumse shaadi karne ko taiyyar hai aur kya tum uske bete ko apnakar uss se shaadi ke liye taiyyar ho aur tum dono hi pariwar walo ki baatein sunne ke liye ready ho?????? Agar haan toh fir badho aage….kyunki jis tarah se tum tum-dono ki tuning ki baatein kar rahe ho aur uske pyar ki inteha bata rahe ho toh fir iss baare mein aapas mein baat kar lo. Iss se bhi aage ke liye thik rehega.
Dear, situation is really critical and iss situation ke liye kahin na kahin tum hi jimmedar ho. Hum log aksar emotional moments mein apni limits bhool jaate hai.
Ab jo hua so hua. Yeh toh bilkul sure hai ki tum dono ka relation na kewal kuchh zindagiyan kharab karega balki puri ki puri families barbaad hongi. Isko yahin rok do.
Tum yeh mat samjho ki tumara relationship yu hi sabki nazaro se bachkar chalta rahega. Ek din sab ko pata chal jayega aur tab tum sab ko jaise face karoge. Uska beta, uske parents, uska husband sab tumko dislike karege.
Aur fir uske husband ne usse cheat kiya toh usne bhi toh apne husband ko cheat kar liya. Samajhdari se kaam lo. Usse bhi samjhao ki yeh rishta kisi ke liye bhi achcha nahi. SABSE IMPORTANT BAAT KI YEH PYAR NAHI HAI. BILKUL BHI NAHI. TUMARI TARAF SE EK DUKHI AURAT KE LIYE HAMDARDI HAI AUR USKI TARAF SE TUM USKE DUKH KI MALHAM…..BAS. So yeh sochna chhodo ki tum dono ek dusre se pyar karte ho. Jis din jiwan ki haqiqat samne aayegi…..matlab ki agar apne se 12 yrs badi lady n uske 10 yr ke bete ke saath pura jiwan jina padega tab dhire dhire yeh pyar hawa ho jayega. Abhi pyar dikh raha hai kyunki koi jimmedari nahi hai.
Samajhdari issi mein hai ki usko samjhao ki yeh relation life long nahi chal sakta. Let bygones be bygones.
Pehle achhe se usse samjhao. Thodi duri banai uss se fir kuchh time baad apni shaadi ki sochna. Shadi ke baad agar tum yun uske paas samjhane ke liye jaate rahe toh tumari wife yeh kabhi bhi tolerate nahi karegi. Kisi aur ki biwi ko sambhalne ke chakkar mein khud apni biwi ke saath woh karoge jo uske husband ne kiya hai.
For God sake shaadi kar ke kisi ladki ka jiwan kharab mat karna agar tum dono apna relation khatam nahi kar sakte toh.Dear Yuvi, I can feel your pain from your 2nd post. Actually it is becoming tough day by day to maintain harmonious relations in marriage.
I agree with what Shribala ji has said in her post. Your situation seems to be really very difficult. Instead of breaking marriage or they both leaving the house in anger(may be your brother agree reluctantly for the sake of their child n peace in house), you all should sit together n take a decision to shift them to another place nearby so that you will always be on talking terms. Don’t let the relations get rotten due to her misbehaviour.
If you carry on with as it is then it will adversely affect the health of your parents and also on the psychology of the little child. Togetherness should not be on the cost of physical and mental health and peace.Dear Yuvi, your concern is right. As you said that you have made your efforts to convince her but could not succeed then being her younger brother in law, you should talk to her in friendly manner. First try to find out the reason for which she wants to get separated. You should also look into yourselves as to, is there anything lacking on your part? I am just giving you some options. I do not mean whether she is right or you people are right. Just see the situation from other’s point of view. May be you get an answer.
And inspite of analysing the situation as above, you reach to the conclusion that she is unnecessarily creating all this fuss then …..
Some girls don’t realise the benefits of being in joint family. It’s their hard luck and the child, who will not get love n affection of her grand parents.
Instead of thinking that she has got parents at her in law’s house as well, some girls think otherwise that if we have left our parents behind then why should their husband should have the opportunity of Living with his parents.
You can also take help of somebody who matters in her life. Might be she understands if somebody close to her advises her to drop such a bad idea of getting separate from in – laws.I also feel the same. Culprits should be punished. He had been my favourite. I have seen his interviews as well. He was so full of life n positive person. He can’t believe that he committed suicide.
Yes, it may take time but we have to start it one day. Moreover as we feel not to buy Chinese products but not all feel the same way. The change will occur gradually. We have to begin with it. As soon as, the companies will see increasing demand for indian products the supply will also increase and due to competition, quality will also become better.
Der aaye, durust aaye.
I appreciate the step taken by govt. Education should not be bookish knowledge. Rather it should be imparted in a way which would help students in their career n future. Education should go hand in hand with other activities of children. Today our children have lost their childhood.
Marks should never matter especially in fundamental n middle classes. Getting 90{551c903f756d5bf12b7d58e2eb1e8b74af35058efa7a05d3e7b41e9147979503} marks doesn’t mean that the child knows 90{551c903f756d5bf12b7d58e2eb1e8b74af35058efa7a05d3e7b41e9147979503} of syllabus. It’s just a rat race. We should also equip our children for facing all the probabilities in life.
Hoping for better future for the upcoming generations.Dear, do introspection n try to find out cause. May be there is some incident behind it. If you will find out the incident or happening behind your changed attitude then it will be very easier for you to overcome your weakness. I, myself have experienced that after a major jolt in my life, my nature n behaviour changed, which i was unaware of. Rather due to this, i suffered some medical issues as well due to overflow of emotions but as soon as I realised and found the cause, it became easier for me to overcome the problem. Gradually, I became normal.
Meditation for a few minutes will help you.Yes, true. Find out the reason. It will help you to solve the issue. Sometimes a person’s behaviour is like this due to some past events or childhood events.
I have also faced similar problem a few years ago. I tackled it tactfully because my partner had told me past life. I became considerate and tackled lovingly.
It’s also good that your husband becomes normal soon. I think you should remain calm while he is angry. It will not trigger his anger. With passage of time, he will realise and will change his nature. Also you try to make him understand that he is harming himself by getting angry but do it when he is calm.Hi dear,
You have written that boy is ill from brain and heart. What do you mean by this? Is he having ailment of brain n heart or you mean he is somewhat mentally challenged.
I personally feel that if the family is greedy n demands dowry then the girl should not accede to their demands. You should try anyhow to contact and talk to your husband. Communication is must. Talk like two educated persons and see where the problem lies. Everything has its solution. But first you both need to talk. Take help of your relatives to help you reach to him.
If you are willing to live with him n he is not ready to take you to his place, then first try to talk to him, secondly, you both can request any senior family member(whom he respects) to do counselling n thirdly, you can file a case for restitution of conjugal rights.
I hope things will get better soon.Yes, I also agree. It’s really tough task to handle children these days. But I am of the firm belief that if parents become friendly with their children and at the same time remain careful then problems can be sorted out. Actually we expect from children but we never try to mould according to new generation. Parents should also understand the new generation and in many things if we will adjust and understand then certainly the children will also adjust with parents on certain occasions. Parents should not stick to the old phrase, “HAMARE JAMANE MEIN….” Children are of tender age and parents are grown up so they should try to make the child comfortable. Take time before reacting. Every child is different and needs to be handled differently. Time is the problem. Parents don’t have time to spend with their children then how n when they will share their routine with them. We should not expect from children to share their problem directly unless we spend time with them, play with them, help in their studies, etc.
